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  • Writer's pictureKandy Graves

Understanding Energy – The part of “us” that has a mind of its own.


How the pain body renews itself (Information taken from chapter five, A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle) (The pain body in my opinion is the unconscious EGO in us. The EGO = Edges God Out. That part of us that is unaware and on auto-pilot.)

The pain body is a semi-autonomous energy form that lives within most human beings, an entity made up of emotion. It has its own primitive intelligence, not unlike a cunning animal, and its intelligence is directed primarily at survival. Like all life-forms, it periodically needs to feed; to take in new energy and the food it requires to replenish itself consists of energy that is compatible with its own, which is to say, energy that vibrates at a similar frequency. Any emotionally painful experience can be used as food by the pain body; that's why it thrives on negative thinking as well as drama in relationships. The pain body is an addiction to unhappiness.

It may be shocking when you realize for the first time that there is something within you that periodically seeks emotional negativity, seeks unhappiness. You need even more awareness to see it in yourself than to recognize it in another person. Once the unhappiness has taken you over, not only do you not want an end to it, but you want to make others just as miserable as you are in order to feed on their negative emotional reactions.

In most people, the pain body has a dormant and an active stage. When it is dormant, you easily forget that you carry a heavy dark cloud or dormant volcano inside you, depending on the energy field of your particular pain body. How long it remains dormant varies from person to person. A few weeks is the most common, but it can be a few days or months. In rare cases the pain body can lie in hibernation for years before it gets triggered by some event.

How the pain body feeds on your thoughts

The pain body awakens from its dormancy when it gets hungry, when it is time to replenish itself. Alternatively, it may get triggered by an event at any time. The pain body that is ready to feed can use the most insignificant event as a trigger, something somebody says or does, or even a thought. If you live alone or there is nobody around at the time, the pain body will feed on your thoughts. Suddenly your thinking becomes deeply negative you are most likely unaware that just prior to the influx of negative thinking a wave of emotion invaded your mind -- as a dark and heavy mood, as anxiety or fiery anger. All thought is energy and the pain body is now feeding on the energy of your thoughts. But it cannot feed on any thought. You don't need to be particularly sensitive to notice that a positive thought has a totally different feeling tone than a negative one. It is the same energy but it vibrates at a different frequency. A happy, positive thought is indigestible to the pain body. It can only feed on negative thoughts because only those thoughts are compatible with its own energy field. (Remember Somatic Markers in Kandy’s presentation? These are events/traumas that are in the limbic brain/body and are actively sending out a frequency, a resonance...they are magnetically and electrically charged. Until they are neutralized through the Epi-Genetic Technique or NLP, they will emit the frequency and "bring" to you like or same experiences over and over again.)

All things are vibrating energy fields in ceaseless motion. The chair you sit on, appears solid and motionless only because that is how your senses perceive their vibrational frequency, that is to say, the incessant movement of the molecules, atoms, electrons and subatomic particles that together create what you perceive as a chair, a book, a tree, or a body. What we perceive as physical matter is energy vibrating, moving at a particular range of frequencies. (Map of Consciousness, from the book, Power vs. Force by Dr. David Hawkins) Thoughts consist of the same energy vibrating at a higher frequency than matter which is why they cannot be seen or touched. Thoughts have their own range of frequencies, with negative thoughts at the lower end of the scale and positive thoughts at the higher. The vibrational frequency of the pain body resonates with that of negative thoughts, which is why only those thoughts can feed the pain body.

The usual pattern of thought creating emotion is reversed in the case of the pain body, at least initially. Emotion from the pain body quickly gains control of your thinking, and once your mind has been taken over by the pain body, your thinking becomes negative. The voice in your head will be telling sad, anxious

or angry stories about yourself or your life, about other people, about past, future or imaginary events. The Voice will be blaming, accusing, complaining, imagining. And you are totally identified with whatever the voice says, believe all its distorted thoughts. At that point, the addiction to unhappiness has set in.

It is not so much that you cannot stop your train of negative thoughts, but that you don't want to. This is because the pain body at that time is living through you pretending to be you. (A life of its own.) To the pain body, pain is pleasure. (Good feels bad and bad feels good. CRP or Chronic Reversed Polarity.) It eagerly devours every negative thought. In fact, the usual voice in your head has now become the voice of the pain body. It has taken over the internal dialogue. (Unconsciousness sets in, you are effectively “offline”. Which means that the pre-frontal cortex, the thinking brain isn't working and the reptilian brain takes are in survival mode. But EVERYTHING happening to you is getting recorded and will lay in wait until you neutralize what has happened to you or you watched happen to someone else.) A vicious cycle becomes established between the pain body and your thinking. Every thought feeds the pain body and in turn the pain body generates more thoughts. At some point, after a few hours or even a few days, it has replenished itself and returns to its dormant stage, living behind a depleted organism and a body that is much more susceptible to illness. If that sounds to you like a psychic parasite, you are right. That's exactly what it is.

How the pain body feeds on drama

If there are other people around preferably your partner or a close family member, the pain body will attempt to provoke them - push their buttons, as the expression goes so it can feed on the ensuing drama. Pain bodies love intimate relationships and families because that is where they get most of their food. It is hard to resist another person's pain body that is determined to draw you into a reaction. Instinctively it knows your weakest, most vulnerable points. (Energy can be read/felt) If it doesn’t succeed the first time, it will try again and again. It is raw emotion looking for more emotion. The other person’s pain body want to awaken yours so that both pain bodies can mutually energize each other.

Many relationships go through violent and destructive pain body episodes at regular intervals. It is almost unbearably painful for a young child to have to witness the emotional violence of their parent’s pain bodies, and yet that is the fate of millions of children all over the world, the nightmare of their daily existence. That is also one of the main ways in which the human pain body is

passed on from generation to generation. After each episode, the partners make up, and there is an interval of relative peace, to the limited extent that the ego allows it.

Excessive consumption of alcohol will often activate the pain body, particularly in men, but also in some women. When a person becomes drunk, he goes through a complete personality change and the pain body takes him over. A deeply unconscious person whose pain body habitually replenishes itself through physical violence often directs it toward his spouse or children. When he becomes sober, he is truly sorry and they say he will never do this again, and he means it. The person who is talking and making promises, however, is not the entity that commits the violence, and so you can be sure that it will happen again and again unless he becomes present, recognizes the pain body with himself, and thus dis-identifies from it. In some cases, counseling can help him do that.

Most pain bodies want to both inflict and suffer pain, but some are predominantly either perpetrators are victims. In either case they feed on violence, whether emotional or physical. Some couples who may think they have fallen “in love” are actually feeling drawn to each other because their respective pain bodies complement each other. Sometimes the role of perpetrator and victim are already clearly prescribed the first time they meet. Some marriages that are thought to be made in heaven are actually made in Hell.

If you have ever lived with a cat you will know that even when the cat seems to be asleep, it's still knows what is going on because at the slightest unusual noise its ears will move toward it and its eyes may open slightly. Dormant pain bodies are the same. On some level, they are still awake, ready to jump into action when an appropriate trigger represents itself.

In Intimate Relationships, pain bodies are often clever enough to lie low until you start living together and preferably have signed a contract committing yourself to be with this person for the rest of your life. You don't just marry your wife or husband; you also marry her or his pain body and your spouse marries yours. It can be quite a shock when, perhaps not long after moving in together or after the honeymoon, you find suddenly one day there is a

complete personality change in your partner. Her voice becomes shrill as she accuses you, blames you, or shouts at you, most likely over a relatively trivial matter. Or she becomes totally withdrawn. What's wrong? You ask, “Nothing is wrong”, she says. But the intensely hostile energy she emanates is saying, everything is wrong. When you look into her eyes there is no light in them anymore it's is as if a heavy veil has descended and the being you know and love which before was able to shine through her ego, is now totally obscured. A complete stranger to be looking back at you and in her eyes, there is hatred, hostility, bitterness or anger. When she speaks to you it is not your spouse or partner who is speaking but the pain body speaking through them. Whatever she is saying is the pain bodies version of reality, a reality completely distorted by fear, hostility, anger, and a desire to inflict and receive more pain. (the person has gone “offline” again.)

At this point you may wonder whether this is your partner's real face that you had never seen before and whether you made a dreadful mistake in choosing this person. It is, of course, not the real face, just the pain body that temporarily has taken possession. It would be hard to find a partner who does not carry a pain body, but it would be perhaps wise to choose someone whose pain body is not excessively dense. But yours would have to be less dense as well in order to find such a person. (like attracts like.)

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